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===FIRST THINGS FIRST===
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A PRAYER: Today, please, help us to be Wild
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OUR DAILY TASK:
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====MODERATOR'Z NOTE===
Howdy, All...I'm gettin' another day, Today...hope you
all are too...
Okay,
Todaze subject is a sticky one...convoluted, full of buzz-words, fraught
with emotional danger, controversial, etc. etc.
(but,
aren't they all, Gayle? Shut UP! Lumpy, I'm trying to do an introduction
here...)
During the past 3 or 4 months of my classwork, the
term "Codependent" has come up a number of times. Indeed, I
have actually been publicly "accused" of being codependent,
which, of course, I'm NOT (...riiiiiiiiiiiiight, Gayle) as have several
of my classmates in the course of debate or discussion in class. This
has caused me some concern and distress, as I do not like to think of my
attempts to be a caring and nurturing friend as part of the pathology of
my addiction (actually,she's not really much of a caring and nurturing
friend; in fact, she's an almost total recluse who usually only contacts
her friends when she need help or when it's an easy day to say
something pre-scripted, traditional and mindless like "Happy
something" or "Merry Something" or "Congratulations
on something" ...Oh, Oh, warning! Warning!, Danger Will Robinson )
...BUT...(and there's always at least one "but" in there
somewhere) I've had to step back, even as I vehemently denied the
"charges," and take yet another good hard look at myself and I
do so HATE to have to do that all the time. In fact, I hate it so much,
I withdrew from one class, Group Process, this semester because I
couldn't deal with someone calling me codependent in a situation where I
thought another classmate was being unfairly baited and purposely pushed
to the breaking point for ALL the wrong reasons and I spoke up for that
person...the immediate reaction from one of the main persons doing the
baiting, who had, not by the way, JUST completed the course in
Codependency, was "You're SO codependent..." What? Me? Code? I
think not" is what I said (what I thought, and didn't say, was
"I think she's just using that to cover up the fact that she's
being a vicious B...ahem...) Anyway, the upshot was that the person who
was being baited finally did snap and went semi-ballistic and thus, the
prophecy of his being potentially violent and out of control was
partially fulfilled. Anyway, whatever THAT reality really was, I did
find the term to be simply hitting too danged close to home for
comfort... the dead give away being that I even couched the subject in
such terms as "accused" and "charges". (overly
defensive...she's always been overly defensive) Being codependent is not
a crime, it's a behavioral pattern...and one that has a LOT to do with
addiction...the two often seem to go hand in hand, although (so far) I
haven't figured out if it's a chicken-or-egg kind of relationship, or if
they are so intertwined that they are inseparable...or if they are, in
fact, manifestations of the same disease...etc. etc.??? One of the
classes that I've yet to take in my Addiction Studies Certificate
Program is the class on Codependency...I'm sure (I hope) by the end of
that course I will have a better understanding of the subject. In the
mean time, one can't just go la-la-la-ing along without dealing with the
issues, possibly The Issue, that may be at the root of one's addictions,
can one?.Well, one can...but this one doesn't care to...
Also, simply being called "codependent" by
someone who has had a semester of textbook study and who doesn't like
something you've said and may simply want to invalidate it with a
button-pushing "buzzword", doesn't necessarily make it so...in
fact, it may be an act of codependency to rely on another's judgment in
that regard...one should probably try to figure it out for oneself...or
not.
Oh, Hell, I don't know...
What
I do know is that The Big Question (for me, at this time) is this:
Is
my understanding of Love and Friendship so skewed that it really only
manifests itself in acts of codependency,?
Thus, the subject of Today's Newsletter...the
question: "What? Me? Co-de?"
@(^o^)@ Thanks for letting me share...
Lumpy
(ok,
ok, I KNOW you contributed...and, no, I do NOT always take all the
credit...Gawd, you are SO codependent!)
and
Gayle...
===SURF'Z UP! ===
CODEPENDENTS
ANONYMOUS
http://www.coda.org/
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RECOVERY
MAN CODEPENDENCY WEBSITE
http://www.recovery-man.com/coda/codependency.htm
===ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT===
Be
yourself and think for yourself; and while your conclusions may not be
infallible,
they
will be nearer right than the conclusions forced upon you.
--Elbert
Hubbard
===NOTABLE QUOTEZ===
Here's
an interesting note...I have at least 6 motivational, inspirational
& spiritual quote search engines that I use to help me find content
for this part of the newsletter when I don't already have anything
appropriate in my own files and not a one of them comes up with anything
at all when I enter the term "codependent" or any of its
variations...I wonder, does that mean that there's never been anything
motivational, inspirational and/or spiritual said by the usual quotable
people about the subject? I find "dependence, independence,
interdependence" and a multitude of their variations, but nothing
on "codependence" and its variations...hmmmmmm...
Let's
face it.
In
most of life we really are interdependent.
We
need each other.
Staunch
independence is an illusion, but heavy dependence isn't healthy, either.
The
only position of long-term strength is interdependence: win/win.
--Greg
Anderson, The
22 Non-Negotiable Laws of Wellness
The
unfortunate need people who will be kind to them;
the
prosperous need people to be kind to.
--Aristotle
People
who exercise their embryonic freedom day after day, little by little,
expand that freedom.
People
who do not will find that it withers until they are literally 'being
lived.'
They
are acting out scripts written by parents, associates and society.
Stephen
Covey, The
7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Keep
in mind that each of you has your own vineyard.
But
every one is joined to your neighbor's vineyards without any dividing
lines.
They
are so joined together, in fact, that you cannot do good or evil for
yourself
without
doing the same for your neighbors.
--Catherine
of Sienna
No
doubt another may also think for me;
but
it is not therefore desirable that he should do so to the exclusion of
my thinking for myself.
--Henry
David Thoreau
The
secret of culture is to learn, that a few great points steadily
reappear,
…and
that these few are alone to be regarded,
--
the escape from all false ties;
courage
to be what we are;
and
love of what is simple and beautiful;
independence,
and
cheerful relation,
these
are the essentials, --
these,
and the wish to serve, --
to
add somewhat to the well-being of men.
-Ralph
Waldo Emerson
===WHAT? ME?===
FROM: one of the above
Surf'z Up links...I forgot to note which...
Codependency Test:
Take this test to find out if you're helping people who need or
needing people to help:
1. Do you feel demeaned, hurt or offended when someone you love tells
you they don't need your help?
2. In the last year, has anyone resorted to arguing, begging or
raising their voice to get you to stop trying to help them?
3. If you had plenty of money and your child, sibling or parent had
an addiction to drinking, spending, gambling or drugs, and they asked
you for money to help with their necessary expenses (food, rent,
clothes, bills), would you give them the money?
4. When someone shares a life or relationship problem with you, but
doesn't ask for help, do you offer help or advice, anyway?
5. When you survey your relationships, do you find yourself
surrounded by mostly people who need you?
6. Do you ever find yourself making excuses for the needy people in
your life?
7. If someone you love has a substance abuse, emotional, spending or
gambling problem, do you avoid confronting them?
8. Do you measure your self-esteem by how much someone depends on
you?
9. Do you ever remind people where they would be without you?
A. If you answered 'yes' to any of the above, read the rest of this
article and monitor yourself for the next 3 months to verify your
answers.
B. If you answered 'yes' to 3 or more of the above, you may have a
codependency problem. Read the rest of this article, get a trusted
friend who is independent of you to keep you accountable, and read a
couple books on the subject of codependence.
C. If you answered 'yes' to 5 or more of the above, do 'A' & 'B'
above and ask your friend to attend an alanon, narconon or codependents
anonymous meeting with you.
Causes Of Codependency:
Many codependents, like other addicts, blame the people around them
for their problem, or, more accurately, use them to deny their problem.
'I'm not codependent, I just love them so much.' 'It's just that they
need so much help.' 'They couldn't get along without me.' A good book to
discover the connection between love and codependency is Facing
Love Addiction .
Let's face the facts...the needy people in your life need to learn to
take care of themselves, take responsibility for their own problems and
begin to solve them. If you'd stop bailing them out, they'd learn to
handle life's challenges, themselves. A good book about how codependency
affects family members is Never
Good Enough.
So, actually, you're hurting them! (we're not talking about a rare
emergency situation...we're talking about a lifestyle of neediness.) I
remember how upset I was when, in my early 20's, my mother told me to
get a job and move out of her house. It was the best thing she could
have done for me. I resented her for at least 5 years. If you can be as
strong as my Mom with the habitually needy around you, you're not
codependent. Codependency, like any other addiction, is caused by a
feeling of emptiness...a low self-esteem. Instead of a drug, a
codependent uses the needs of others to make themselves feel whole.
That's why no one around them is allowed to recover...the codependent
wouldn't be needed.
Cure For Codependency:
The only cures for codependency require finding the genuine, healthy
sources for a positive self-esteem, to replace the negative ones. You
can learn all about these things at codependents anonymous meetings. Breaking
Free
is a codependency recovery workbook that can be very helpful in the
recovery process. You also have to learn how to 'ween' your needy people
off of your help. This is a dysfunctional relationship, and often
results in the 'needy' person abandoning the codependent. Although very
painful, this is better for both people...forcing them to find better
sources of fulfillment. It's good for the codependent to find productive
and fulfilling activities that don't involve satisfying needy people.
This can be done with sporting activities, art, school, etc. There are
many ways to be productive without attachment to a chronically needy
person. Ultimately, we codependents must face the fact that our
self-worth comes from the value placed on us by a loving God. By
pursuing a healthy relationship with the One who loves us
unconditionally, we can be healed of our codependence for good. If you
want God's help with your codependency, just click on God
Help Me.
===SIGNS & SYMPTOMS===
FROM: also one of the above Surf'z Up links...I forgot
to note which...
Symptoms of Codependency:
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* |
Inability to know what "normal" is. |
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* |
Difficulty in following a project through. |
|
* |
Difficulty having fun. |
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* |
Judging self, others without mercy. |
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* |
Low self esteem, often projected onto others. (eg: Why don't they
get their act together!) |
|
* |
Difficulty in developing or sustaining meaningful
relationships. |
| |
*Belief that others cause or are responsible for the
codependent's emotions. |
(Codependents often use language like "you make me feel
______", or "I was made to feel like____")
| |
*Overreacting to change. (or intense fear of /
inability to deal with change.) |
|
* |
Inability to see alternatives to situations, thus
responding very impulsively. |
|
* |
Constantly seeking approval and affirmation, yet
having compromised sense of self. |
|
* |
Feelings of being different. |
|
* |
Confusion and sense of inadequacy. |
|
* |
Being either super responsible or super
irresponsible. (Or alternating between these.) |
|
* |
Lack of self confidence in making decisions, no
sense of power in making choices. |
|
* |
Feeling of fear, insecurity, inadequacy, guilt,
hurt, and shame which are denied. |
|
* |
Isolation and fear of people, resentment of
authority figures. |
|
* |
Fear of anger or bottling anger up till it
explodes. |
|
* |
Hypersensitivity to criticism. |
|
* |
Being addicted to excitement / drama. (Chaos
making.) |
|
* |
Dependency upon others and fear of abandonment. |
|
* |
Avoidance of relationships to guard against
abandonment fears. |
|
* |
Confusion between love and pity. |
|
* |
Tendency to look for "victims" to help. |
|
* |
Rigidity and need to control. |
|
* |
Lies, when it would be just as easy to tell the
truth. |
===BY THE BOOK===
A
new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have
loved you, that you also love one another.
By
this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one
another.
John
12:34
===BY THE BIG BOOK===
FROM: The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
BIG BOOK SEARCH ENGINE: http://www.healingresource.org/book.cgi?Display_Welcome
oops...forgot to do this
one...
===ON THE LIGHTER SIDE===
Animal Wisdom
In
order to keep a true perspective of one's importance,
everyone
should have a dog that will worship him and a cat that will ignore him.
--Dereke
Bruce
I
have never understood why women love cats.
Cats
are independent, they don't listen, they don't come in when you call,
they
like to stay out all night, and when they're home they like to be left
alone and sleep.
In
other words, every quality that women hate in a man, they love in a cat.
--Anon.
I
like pigs better than cat and dogs.
Dogs
are subservient and look up to man.
Cats
are aloof and look down on man.
A
pig, however, will look you in the eye, and see his equal.
--Winston
Churchill
===SOUL FOOD===
"Man:
The most complex of beings, and thus the most dependent of beings.
On
all that made you up, you depend."
--Andre
Gide
===THOTZ FOR THE DAZE===
FROM: yet another one of the above Surf'z Up links...I
forgot to note which...
About Codependendency and Recovery from Addictions:
Addictions and Codependency are family
and relationship issues as well as a primary illness for
the addict. Modern treatment methods address the entire family and
relationship structure.
Ironically, codependency isn't about
other people - it's about the relationship
with the self. Codependents often believe that if the addict in their
life sobered up their problems would go away.
Countless addict / alcoholics find their relationships
end or change radically when they get clean and sober. The
family / relationship dynamic was predicated on the addict being
"the sick one." As the addict gets well they may find their
partners and family members have no idea how to adjust to the changes.
Enabling codependents may subvert the addict's
recovery so the unhealthy relationship dynamics can be
preserved.
Addicted codependents who hid behind
another's more dramatic problem may leave the relationship rather than
give up their own using. Addicted codependents often progress in their
own addictions more rapidly when their partner enters recovery. (Since
the change in the relationship is stressful.)
Codependents in denial cannot adjust to the
relationship changes that occur when their partner begins recovery. They
may move on to other addictive relationships so they can cling to their
own dysfunctional patterns. (The controlling codependent is often lost
without someone to blame, fix and control.) How many times have you
heard of people who leave one alcoholic only to enter a relationship
with another one?
All people involved in the addictive cycle need a
solid recovery program if relationships are to be preserved and
they are to lead happy, fulfilling lives.
===THE LAST WORD===
Lumpyprotestz:
Yabut...I only tell you
all this stuff cuz I LOVE you so much...
(choke)
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OUR SPIRITUAL MASCOT: The Wild Goose
OUR MOTTO: Rule 62 - Don't take yourself too
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A MESSAGE FROM THE EDGE ...
Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came.
It pushed Them...
And They flew."
- Guillaume Apollinaire
1870-1918
===FIRST THINGS FIRST===
A MOMENT OF SILENCE: for those who still
suffer...
A PRAYER: Today, please, help us to get off the
"pity pot and stop feeling sorry for ourselves..."
Thank You.
OUR DAILY TASK:
"Practice random acts of kindness and senseless beauty."
--Anne Herbert
===SURF'Z UP! ===
THERE IS LIFE BEYOND SELF-PITY
http://www.hinduonnet.com/jobs/0310/2003100100330800.htm
OUR SUBTLE IDOLS - SELF PITY
http://www.seegod.org/self_pity.htm
===ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT===
Others may argue about whether the world ends with a
bang or a whimper.
I just want to make sure mine doesn't end with a whine.
--Barbara Gordon
===NOTABLE QUOTEZ===
Self-pity is a death that has no resurrection,
a sinkhole from which no rescuing hand can
drag you because you have chosen to sink.
--Elizabeth Elliot
Self-pity is essentially humorless, devoid of that
lightness of touch which gives understanding of life.
--Anthony Powell
The teeth of self-pity had gnawed away her essential
self.
--Willa Gibbs
Self-pity is our worst enemy and
if we yield to it,
we can never do anything wise in this world.
--Helen Keller
When you find yourself overpowered, as it were,
by melancholy, the best way is to go out and do something.
--John Keble
===NATIVE WISDOM===
One evening an old Indian told his grandson about a
"battle" that goes on inside people.He said, "My son, the
battle is between 2 "wolves" inside us all.One is Evil. It is
anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt,
resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.The
other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility,
kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and
faith."The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked
his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?"The old Cherokee simply
replied, "The one you feed."
--Cherokee
Sometimes I go about in pity for myself, and all the
while a great wind is bearing me across the sky.
--Ojibway
===BY THE BOOK===
FROM: The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
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|
Chapter
5. HOW IT WORKS |
page
62 |
|
Driven by a hundred forms of fear,
self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of
our fellows and they retaliate. |
|
Chapter
6. INTO ACTION |
page
86 |
|
Before we begin, we ask God to direct our
thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity,
dishonest or self-seeking motives.
|
|
Chapter
6. INTO ACTION |
page
88 |
|
We are then in much less danger of excitement,
fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions.
|
|
Chapter
8. TO WIVES |
page
104 |
|
We have had long rendezvous with hurt pride,
frustration, self-pity, misunderstanding and fear. |
===SOUL FOOD===
I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself.
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough
Without ever having felt sorry for itself.
--D.H. Lawrence
God
never intended our minds to be on ourselves.
We
are not even to examine ourselves, much less feel pity for ourselves.
--A.Gene
Veale
===THOTZ FOR THE DAZE===
******************************************
FROM: Living Life Fully
...we have to separate self-pity from depression and
grief and sadness. The person who engages in self-pity is looking for
sympathy from others, usually, for in that sympathy they hope to find
their happiness, their pleasant feelings. They're depending on support
and encouragement from others to make them feel better; unfortunately,
such a dependence is very similar to a chemical dependence--the high
soon wears off, and they need another fix. Fortunately, the number of
people who constantly pity themselves is rather low, it seems, though we
all know one or two of them. Their fixation on what's going wrong in
their lives is like sandpaper on our brains--it's annoying and harmful,
especially since they never seem to listen when we point out what's
right in their lives, and just how much the positive out-balances the
negative. They don't want to acknowledge this because then they'd no
longer have a reason to feel bad for themselves.
===THE LAST WORD===
LumpyExitzSaying:
Get off the pot and get on with living...
life's too short to waste on wah wah...
--LK
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OUR SPIRITUAL MASCOT: The Wild Goose
OUR MOTTO: Rule 62 - Don't take yourself too
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A MESSAGE FROM THE EDGE ...
Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came.
It pushed Them...
And They flew."
- Guillaume Apollinaire
1870-1918
===FIRST THINGS FIRST===
A MOMENT OF SILENCE: for those who still
suffer...
A PRAYER: Today, please, help us to remember those who
have run out of time...R.I.P.
Thank You.
OUR DAILY TASK:
"Practice random acts of kindness and senseless beauty."
--Anne Herbert
====WE GOT MAIL!===
FROM: Kelly
|
Here's
my entry for the newsletter.
Well,
not much to report. That's a good thing. I no longer crave chaos
and drama.
However,
it is said that in life, as on a heart monitor, you want a wiggly
line, not a flat line!
We
lost a member of our AA community recently. Joyce G died of lung
cancer.
She
was 70 and had 9 years sober. She was the kind of woman who stood
out in any crowd.
She
was boisterous. She had big stories to tell. She loved her Higher
Power. She inspired many people. She will be missed.
I'm
very happy for my young friend M. She shouldered all the
arrangements for Joyce.
At
the tender age of 29 she will have 10 years in a few months.
The
longer I have stayed sober, the further away my family has gone.
They
are not comfortable with me being an alcoholic.
In
fact, my mom refuses to accept it. Some people get their families
back. I never really had one.
I
find it perplexing and don't understand why people feel it is
necessary to give their opinion when it's not asked for.
Especially
on craigslist. I put up an ad and I get all kinds of advice and
attitudes from people.
I
think they must have a lot of time on their hands.
Kelly
*
* * * * * * * * * * *
@(^o^)@
Thanks for Sharing, Kelly -
Sorry
to hear about Joyce G...when we lose a valued, vibrant member of
the AA community,
it's
like losing a beloved member of our family. But, I'm glad for her
that she died sober.
That's
my main goal in life, to die clean & sober...
And
congratulations to your young friend, Joyce, on her approaching
Ten Years...good for her!!!
I
just "lost" an old friend (a former roommate) who,
sadly, couldn't (or wouldn't) get clean and sober, no matter
what..
He
was a bitter, angry man, living a bitter, angry life and toward
the end had become so hateful that he pushed away most all of his
friends, myself included. I could not stand (nor afford) to be
around him any more
-
it was as though he was a physical force trying to draw me back
out.
He
was kicked out of every house he lived in in the past 10 years for
going into violent alcohol and methamphetamine-induced rages and
pointing guns at his roommates, even firing at the walls a couple
of time...very scary stuff.
And
after his friends had finally had enough, and left him all
alone, on his own,
he
then blamed us for his addictions.
It's
an old story.
He
was, finally, thoroughly toxic to be around as he poisoned himself
to death with alcohol and chemicals...
and
he died alone as he predicted he would.
We
will all, his old friends (clean and sober, or still active in our
addictions) show up at his funeral and talk about how sad it is,
blah, blah, blah, but probably most will be secretly (some even
openly, like me) relieved that he's finally gone. Talk about those
who still suffer...whew!
The
only positive thing I can think of to say about the many deaths in
recent years of my old friends from back in the day is that, at
each funeral, there are more and more of us who are in recovery...
At
the end of our lives, we will be remembered by how we were...or
forgotten for the same reason.
I
won't forget because I can't afford to - there but for Grace go I.
Thanks again for Sharing, Kelly
And thanks for letting me share...
@
(^o^)@
Gayle
H. (AKA Lumpy Karma)
Polyaddict/Student/List
Moderator
____________________________________________________________
FROM: Peter
Entertaining movie for addicts...
Just thought I would share since this is news to
me. The movie, Hi My
Name is Bill W is coming out on DVD. I'm surprised it's only
coming out
just now because IMO this is one of the best movies about
addiction
out there and is a must see IMO for anyone facing alcoholism.
* * * * * * * * * * * *
Thanks
for the heads up, Peter...I haven't seen it. I'll see if I can
talk the head of the Addiction Studies Dept at
my
college intro buying a copy of the DVD to show the students...
I'd
buy a copy myself...BUT, I won a DVD player at a raffle on a
motorcycle run a couple of summers ago...
went
through great lengths to secure it with lots of bungee cords,
traveling very slowing along a lot of back roads taking the long
way home on my Harley to make sure it didn't fall off
and get damaged, even stopped along the way to buy a DVD to watch,
finally made it home safely with my precious cargo, only to find
out there is no way to hook it up to my cheap frickin TV...and the
DVD player on my computer has gone on strike...
Oh,
well...lumpy larma in action: You win some, you lose some...
and
some of what you win you can't even use...
Thanks for letting me share...
@
(^o^)@
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H. (AKA Lumpy Karma)
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===SURF'Z UP! ===
HAVE
SOME TIME ON YOUR HANDS?
http://inventors.about.com/b/a/137983.htm
TOO
MUCH TIME ON YOUR HANDS?
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TOO
MUCH TIME ON YOUR HANDS
http://economistsview.typepad.com/economistsview/2006/02/too_much_time_o.html
===ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT===
Time
is the coin of your life.
It
is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be
spent.
Be
careful lest you let other people spend it for you.
--Carl
Sandburg
===NOTABLE QUOTEZ===
Procrastination is the thief of time--Charles
Dickens, David Copperfield
One thing you can't recycle is wasted
time.--Anon
"The
roses under my window make no reference to former roses or better ones;
they
are what they are; they exist with God today.
 There
is no time to them.
There
is simply the rose;
it
is perfect in every moment of its existence."
--Ralph
Waldo Emerson
You may delay, but time will not.--Benjamin
Franklin
===BY THE BOOK===
FROM: The Big Book
of Alcoholics Anonymous
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===EASTERN WISDOM===
Time is not a line, but a series of now-points.--Taisen
Deshimaru
There
is surely nothing other than the single purpose of the present moment.
A
man's whole life is a succession of moment after moment.
If
one fully understands the present moment, there will be nothing else to
do,
and
nothing else to pursue.
--Yamamoto
Tsunetomo
===MIDDLE EASTERN WISDOM===
| |
Time
has been transformed, and we have changed;
it
has advanced and set us in motion;
it
has unveiled its face, inspiring us with bewilderment and
exhilaration.
--Kahlil Gibran |
===WESTERN WISDOM===
Time bears away all things, even the mind. --Virgil
MODERATOR'Z NOTE: Now THAT'S a thought
I can relate to...
===THOTZ FOR THE DAZE===
There
are many find things which you mean to do some day,
under
what you think will be more favorable circumstances.
But
the only time that is surely yours is the present, hence this is the
time
to
speak the word of appreciation and sympathy,
to
do the generous deed,
to
forgive the fault of a thoughtless friend,
to
sacrifice self a little more for others.
Today
is the day in which to express your noblest qualities of mind and heart,
to
do at least one worthy thing which you have long postponed,
and
to use your God-given abilities for the enrichment of some less
fortunate fellow traveler.
Today
you can make your life...significant and worthwhile.
The
present is yours to do with it as you will.
--Grenville
Kleiser
===THE
LAST WORD===
Lumpyexitzsinging:
I'm
sure I'll be here tomorrow. I really have no doubt.
I'll
live for today, find a better way. somehow I'll work it out.
I've
contemplated the future. no, it's no simple thing.
but
I can't waste time predicting what the future's gonna bring.
I
know you find it hard to understand, woo oh.
you
see the flaws all throughout my plan, woo oh.
i
know it seems kind of strange to you, woo oh.
but
it's the way I have to see it through, woo oh.
You
wanna forecast the outcome and what it means to you.
aware
of that something you can't touch and that something's haunting you.
I
know you're worried, somehow in a hurry, but why not try instead
to
work on what's in the present before I end up dead.
I
know you find it hard to understand, woo oh.
you
see the flaws all throughout my plan, woo oh.
I
know it seems kind of strange to you, woo oh.
but
it's the way I have to see it through, woo oh...
--David Bowie
Time
can't change me, and
I
can't change time...
Linsey
Lohan
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OUR SPIRITUAL MASCOT: The Wild Goose
OUR MOTTO: Rule 62 - Don't take yourself too
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A MESSAGE FROM THE EDGE ...
Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came.
It pushed Them...
And They flew."
- Guillaume Apollinaire
1870-1918
===FIRST THINGS FIRST===
A MOMENT OF SILENCE: for those who still
suffer...
A PRAYER: Today, please, help us find peace in
silence...
Thank You.
OUR DAILY TASK:
"Practice
random acts of kindness and senseless beauty."
--Anne
Herbert
===SURF'Z UP! ===
A Peace In Silence http://www.moytura.com/lent2001/3rdThursday.htm
Pure Silence http://www.puresilence.org/
===ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT===
A gentle, loving, inner peace and silence is here and
now in this moment. It has always been this way. It is always here. It
is right here within you and all around you, a stillness, an apparent
void, a seeming nothingness out of which everything arises, exists, and
eventually returns.
You know this.
You have felt this.
There is nothing more than this.
You are this.
This is truth.
===NOTABLE QUOTEZ===
All
noise is waste. So cultivate quietness in your speech, in your thoughts,
in your emotions.
Speak
habitually low. Wait for attention and then you low words will be
charged with dynamite.
--Elbert
Hubbard
Silence
is one of the hardest arguments to refute.
--Josh
Billings
Silence
is the perfectest herald of joy: I were but little happy, if I could say
how much.
--William
Shakespeare, Much Ado About Nothing
Let
us not look east and west for materials of conversation, but rest in
presence and unity.
A
just feeling will fast enough supply fuel for discourse, if speaking be
more grateful than silence.
When
people come to see us, we foolishly prattle, lest we be inhospitable.
But
things said for conversation are chalk eggs.
Don't
say things.
What
you are stands over you the while, and thunders so that I cannot hear
what you say to the contrary.
A
lady of my acquaintance said, " I don't care so much for what they
say as I do for what makes them say it."
--Ralph
Waldo Emerson
If
we had a keen vision of all that is ordinary in human life,
it
would be like hearing the grass grow or the squirrel's heart beat,
and
we should die of that roar which is the other side of silence.
-George Eliot (Marion Evans Cross), MIDDLEMARCH
===NATIVE AMERICAN WISDOM===
...(the Native American) believes
profoundly in silence -
the sign of perfect equilibrium.
Silence is the absolute poise or balance of body, mind and spirit.
The man who preserves his selfhood ever calm
and unshaken by the storms of existence -
not a leaf as it were, astir on the trees;
not a ripple upon the surface of a shining pool -
his, in the mind of the unlettered sage,
is the ideal attitude and conduct of life.
Ohiyesha (Charles Alexander Eastman)
from "Thoughts on Being at Peace" by Helen Exley
Silence has so much meaning...Native American
Proverb
===BY THE BOOK===
www.biblegateway.com
Ecclesiastes
3:7
A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to
speak;
===BY THE BIG BOOK===
FROM: The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
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|
Chapter
1. BILL'S STORY |
page
8 |
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I was to know happiness, peace, and usefulness,
in a way of life that is incredibly more wonderful as time passes.
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Chapter
1. BILL'S STORY |
page
14 |
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There was a sense of victory, followed by such a
peace and serenity as I had never know.
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|
Chapter
1. BILL'S STORY |
page
16 |
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Each day my friend's simple talk in our kitchen
multiplies itself in a widening circle of peace on earth and good
will to men.
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Chapter
4. WE AGNOSTICS |
page
50 |
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In the face of collapse and despair, in the face
of the total failure of their human resources, they found that a
new power, peace, happiness, and sense of direction flowed into
them.
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Chapter
5. HOW IT WORKS |
page
63 |
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As we felt new power flow in, as we enjoyed
peace of mind, as we discovered we could face life successfully,
as we became conscious of His presence, we began to lose our fear
of today, tomorrow or the hereafter.
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Chapter
6. INTO ACTION |
page
75 |
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We can be alone at perfect peace and ease.
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Chapter
6. INTO ACTION |
page
84 |
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word serenity and we will know peace.
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===SOUL FOOD===
There is something greater and purer than what the
mouth utters.
Silence illuminates our souls, whispers to our hearts,
and brings them together.
Silence separates us from ourselves, makes us sail the
firmament of spirit, and brings us closer to Heaven;
it makes us feel that bodies are no more than prisons
and that this world is only a place of exile.
--Kahlil Gibran, The
Broken Wings
===THOTZ FOR THE DAZE===
Desiderata
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.
Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.
===THE LAST WORD===
Lumpysez :
sshhhhhhhhh...
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If you have built castles in the air, your work need
not be lost;
that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.
--Thoreau
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OUR SPIRITUAL MASCOT: The Wild Goose
OUR MOTTO: Rule 62 - Don't take yourself too
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A MESSAGE FROM THE EDGE ...
Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came.
It pushed Them...
And They flew."
- Guillaume Apollinaire
1870-1918
===FIRST THINGS FIRST===
A MOMENT OF SILENCE: for those who still
suffer...
A PRAYER: Today, please, help us to progress in our
Recovery...
Thank You.
OUR DAILY TASK:
"Practice random acts of kindness and senseless beauty."
--Anne Herbert
====MODERATOR'Z NOTES===
Howdy, All - I'm gettin' another day, hope you are
too!!!
Perfection...hmmmmm, interesting idea, yes?
 |
I,
personally, subscribe to the Japanese idea of perfection:
"wabi-sabi."
Wabi-sabi
means, in a very general sense, imperfect beauty, but this
definition is incomplete....
Three
essential truths embody wabi-sabi: "nothing lasts, nothing is
finished, and nothing is perfect."
My
translation of this philosophy is that it is the flaws in any work
of art that make perfection...
that
"perfection" can not exist without some contrasting flaw
to make it real...
So,
we are all, then, in a sense, even in all our unfinished, flawed
and ephemeral glory,
the
living-breathing embodiment of "perfeck"...thank you
very much...
@(^o^)@ Lumpy |
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===ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT===
 |
The
process of succeeding can be seen as a series of trials
in
which your vision constantly guides you toward your target
while
in your actual performance you are regularly slightly off target.
Success
in any area requires constantly readjusting your behavior
as
the result of feedback from your experience.
Lessons
from the Art of Juggling;
by Michael Gelb and Tony Buzan
|
==COIN TOSS===
The I Ching for recovery...
HEXAGRAM 8: Difficulty at the Beginning works supreme
success,
Furthering through perseverance.
Nothing should be undertaken. It furthers one to appoint helpers.
Times of growth are beset with difficulties. They resemble a first
birth. But these difficulties arise from the very profusion of all that
is struggling to attain form. Everything is in motion: therefore if one
perseveres there is a prospect of great success, in spite of the
existing danger. When it is a man's fate to undertake such new
beginnings, everything is still unformed, dark. Hence he must hold back,
because any premature move might bring disaster. Likewise, it is very
important not to remain alone; in order to overcome the chaos he needs
helpers. This is not to say, however, that he himself should look on
passively at what is happening. He must lend his hand and participate
with inspiration and guidance.
===ACCORDING
TO NORMAN===
In
the Words of Norman Vincent Peale...
One
way to become enthusiastic is to look for the plus sign.
To
make progress in any difficult situation, you have to start with what's
right about it and build on that.
To
go fast, row slowly.
===WESTERN
WISDOM===
Without
a struggle, there can be no progress.
--Frederick
Douglass
We
do not live an equal life, but one of contrasts and patchwork;
now
a little joy, then a sorrow, now a sin, then a generous or brave action.
--Ralph
Waldo Emerson
The
art of progress is to preserve order amid change, and to preserve change
amid order.
Life
refuses to be embalmed alive.
--Alfred
North Whitehead
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Every
day you may make progress.
Every
step may be fruitful.
Yet
there will stretch out before you an ever-lengthening,
ever-ascending, ever-improving path.
You
know you will never get to the end of the journey.
But
this, far from discouraging, only adds to the joy and glory of the
climb.
-Sir
Winston Churchill
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Reasonable
people adapt themselves to the world.
Unreasonable
people attempt to adapt the world to themselves.
All
progress, therefore, depends on unreasonable people.
--George
Bernard Shaw
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The
most successful men in the end are those whose success is the result of
steady accretion...
It
is the man who carefully advances step by step, with his mind becoming
wider and wider -
and
progressively better able to grasp any theme or situation -
persevering
in what he knows to be practical, and concentrating his thought upon it,
who
is bound to succeed in the greatest degree.
--Alexander
Graham Bell
===EASTERN WISDOM===
Progress
lies not in enhancing what is, but in advancing toward what will be.
--Kahlil
Gibran, "A Handful of Sand on the Shore"
Problems
are sent to us as gifts.
--Ancient
Oriental Teaching
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Advance,
and never halt, for advancing is perfection.
Advance
and do not fear the thorns in the path, for they draw only corrupt
blood.
--Kahlil
Gibran, "The Visit of Wisdom" |
Honest
disagreement is often a good sign of progress.
--Mahatma
Gandhi
The
butterfly becomes only when it's entirely ready.
--Chinese
Proverb
===NATIVE AMERICAN WISDOM===
Don't
let yesterday use up too much of today.
--
Tsalagi (Cherokee)
Our
first teacher is our own heart.
--Cheyenne
(Little Cree)
All
dreams spin out from the same web.
--Hopi
Sinom
One
finger cannot lift a pebble.
--Hopi
Sinom
Force,
no matter how concealed, begets resistance.
--Lakota
(Sioux)
===POETRY
IN MOTION===
In
the broad earth of ours,
Amid the measureless grossness and the slag,
Enclosed and safe within its central heart,
Nestles the seed perfection.
--Walt Whitman, "Song of The Universal" Leaves
of Grass 1891
===BY THE BOOK===
"I have seen an end of all perfection: but thy
commandment is exceeding broad."
N. B.: This is the origin of the proverb, "All good things must
come to an end."
-Bible,
Psalm 119: 96
===BY THE BIG BOOK===
FROM: The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
BIG BOOK SEARCH ENGINE: http://www.healingresource.org/book.cgi?Display_Welcome
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Chapter
5. HOW IT WORKS |
page
60 |
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*We claim spiritual progress rather than
spiritual perfection.
*To the best of my knowledge, this is only time
the word "perfection" appears on the Big Book
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===THOTZ FOR THE DAZE===
There
is no Gain in the world: so be it: but neither is there any Loss.
There
is never any failure to this infinite freshness of life, and the ancient
novelty is forever renewed.
We
realize the world better if we imagine it, not as a Progress to Prim
Perfection,
but
as the sustained upleaping of a Fountain, the pillar of a Glorious
Flame.
For,
after all, we cannot go beyond the ancient image of Heraclitus, the
"Ever-living Flame, kindled in due measure and in the like measure
extinguished." That translucent and mysterious Flame shines
undyingly before our eyes, never for two moments the same, and always
miraculously incalculable, an ever-flowing stream of fire. The world is
moving, men tell us, to this, to that, to the other. Do not believe
them! Men have never known what the world is moving to. Who foresaw--to
say nothing of older and vaster events--the Crucifixion? What Greek or
Roman in his most fantastic moments prefigured our thirteenth century?
What Christian foresaw the Renaissance? Who ever really expected the
French Revolution? We cannot be too bold, for we are ever at the
incipient point of some new manifestation far more overwhelming than all
our dreams. No one can foresee the next aspect of the Fountain of Life.
And all the time the Pillar of that Flame is burning at exactly the same
height it has always been burning at! The World is everlasting Novelty,
everlasting Monotony. It is just which aspect you prefer. You will
always be right.
-Havelock
Ellis, Impressions and Comments, November 13, 1913
===THE LAST WORD===
Lumpyexitzsinging
...You know I’ve always been a dreamer
(spent my life running ’round)
And it’s so hard to change
(can’t seem to settle down)
But the dreams I’ve seen lately
Keep on turning out and burning out
And turning out the same
So put me on a highway
And show me a sign
And take it to the limit one more time...
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OUR SPIRITUAL MASCOT: The Wild Goose
OUR MOTTO: Rule 62 - Don't take yourself too
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A
MESSAGE FROM THE EDGE ...
Come
to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came.
It
pushed Them...
And They flew."
-
Guillaume Apollinaire
1870-1918
===FIRST
THINGS FIRST===
A
MOMENT OF SILENCE: for those who still suffer...
A PRAYER: Today, please, help us to accept Life on
Life's Terms...
Thank You.
OUR
DAILY TASK:
"Practice random acts of kindness and senseless beauty."
--Anne
Herbert
====MODERATOR'Z NOTE===
Howdy,
All - I'm gettin' another day, hope you are too...
Life
just keeps on sneakin' up on me when I'm not paying attention...
This
week it's startled me once again...
this
time in the form of the realization that I must sell my home...the first
home I ever tried to buy for myself...
the
payments are just too damned high and it's, literally, killing me
trying to keep up...
So,
in keeping with the Spirit of Acceptance (AKA Living Life on Life's
Terms)
I'm
putting my home up for sale, and looking for a cheaper, more viable,
alternative
...in
the form of a double wide mobile home in a park in the same neighborhood
with
payments less than one-quarter of what I'm paying now - I'll be able to
afford to turn the heat on again!!!
Yep,
it's true, I'm going back to being the Trailer Trash that I really am at
heart...LOL...
Seriously,
though, it's a Big Decision and a big change and not a little bit scary,
you know?
But
what the heck...where's the Fun if there's no Fear, right?
But,
more/most importantly, I'm (finally) facing facts and taking the
necessary steps to adjust my economic life to conform to reality,
rather
than trying to change reality to conform to something I can't really
afford it to be...
and,
I don't feel like I've failed at anything...I did the best I could, for
as long as I could, and now it's time to try something different.
WHEW!
Living
Life On Life's Terms has got to be the most difficult concept for
persons in Recovery to get a grip on...
at
least, it is for me. My Addict Ego just HATES! that I don't have Control
of The Universe any more...
but
My Sober Mind insists on trying to see things as they really are, not as
I would prefer them to be, and,
apparently,
My Sobriety is finally growing stronger than my Ego...
But,
hey, ya know...it's ONLY taken almost 10 years to get that far... a
short time, really, in the grand scheme of things...
"The
first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit.
The
second is to look things in the face and know them for what they
are."
--Marcus
Aurelius
Keep
on Truckin'
@(^o^)@
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LIFE
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LIFE
ON LIFE'S TERMS ISN'T ALWAYS RAINBOWS
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LIVE
LIFE ON LIFE'S TERMS?
http://www.youthink.com/article.asp?article_id=1004
===ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT===
However
mean your life is, meet it and live it;
do
not shun it and call it hard names.
It
is not so bad as you are.
It
looks poorest when you are richest.
The
fault-finder will find faults even in Paradise.
Love
your life.
--Henry
David Thoreau
===NOTABLE QUOTEZ===
We
cannot change anything until we accept it.
Condemnation
does not liberate, it oppresses.
--Carl
Jung
Man
is the only creature that refuses to be what he is.
--Albert
Camus
Life
is difficult.
This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths.
It
is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it.
Once
we truly know that life is difficult--once we truly understand and
accept it--then life is no longer difficult.
Because
once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.
--M.
Scott Peck, The
Road Less Traveled
A
pint can't hold a quart--if it holds a pint it is doing all that can be
expected of it.
--Margaretta
W. Deland
The
knowledge of the difference between what we can change and what we must
accept in ourselves
is
the beginning of real change.
With
this knowledge, we can use our precious time to make the many rewarding
changes that are possible.
We
can live with less self-reproach and less remorse.
We
can live with greater confidence.
This
knowledge is a new understanding of who we are and where we are going.
--Martin
Seligman, What
You Can Change and What You Can't
You
have to accept whatever comes and the only important thing
is
that you meet it with the best you have to give.
--Eleanor
Roosevelt
We
must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.
--Martin
Luther King, Jr.
===BY
THE BOOK===
Genesis
4:7
If you do what is right, will you not be
accepted?
But
if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door;
it
desires to have you, but you must master it.
Romans
11:15
For if their rejection is the reconciliation of
the world,
what
will their acceptance be but life from the dead?
===BY
THE BIG BOOK===
FROM:
The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
BIG BOOK SEARCH ENGINE: http://www.healingresource.org/book.cgi?Display_Welcome
PAGE
448
…Acceptance
is the answer to all my problems today.
When
I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or
situation--some fact of my life --unacceptable to me,
and
I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or
situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
Nothing,
absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake.
Until
I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept
life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy.
I
need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world
as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.
===BUY
THE BOOK===
The
Road Less Traveled, by M.
Scott Peck
What
You Can Change and What You Can't,
Martin Seligman
===SOUL
FOOD===
Peace
does not dwell in outward things, but within the soul;
we
may preserve it in the midst of bitterest pain, if our will remains firm
and submissive.
Peace
in this life springs from acquiescence to, not in exemption from,
suffering.
--Francois
de Fenelon
===THOTZ
FOR THE DAZE===
Are
there any pre-defined terms of Life, when adhered to , can make our
lives better or makes the world around us a better place to live. To
come to think of it, Yes - there are certain basic fundamental truths of
life and the best thing we can do is to accept some of the time tested
ones unconditionally.There are others principles to live our life we
need to accept, but before accepting them on face value, I suggest you
to evaluate them first -because without evaluating it, acceptance means
conforming. We humans are basically unruly or unaccepting species.
The benefit of Acceptance is that it offers undeniable reasons to let go
of grief and bitterness
so
that peace within and without has more room to prevail.
Here are a few facts and principles for you to consider.
You
are at liberty to accept them, reject them, dissect them or evaluate
them - the choice always remains with you -
but
THINK about them.
1. Too much of anything material is bad for us . Whether it is use of
alcohol, drugs, food, sex or even love for money - too much of any of
these things makes us a slave and we dance to its tunes.However when we
involve ourselves passionately in unconditional service of others -
whether fellow human beings, animals or have the passion to make our
surroundings a better place to live, then we feel better
inside........think about it and let me know if this life's term has
other exceptions.
2. Everybody may not like you : Most of us think about ourselves to be
very loving and likable people and we expect others to like us in spite
of the way we behave towards others or react to situations in life. It
is not only our behavior or our reaction to situations, there are many
things also which may not appeal to other people about us....it can be
the color of our skin, our face or the way we talk or the way we dress.
Sometimes jealousy and envy are also reasons for some people not to like
you...they may want to have what you have.....more money...a beautiful
wife/a smart handsome husband or just about anything you have and they
do not. There is another category of people the whom we have hurt
(intentionally or unintentionally)...we are on their hate list. whatever
our intentions.... if we hurt somebody they get hurt." people know
us by our actions and not intentions" .....The best thing for you
and me is to accept the fact that everybody may not like us .....and not
worry.( A tip to make people like you - be a good listener)
3. Life is like a looking glass : I smile and my reflection in the
looking glass smiles back
.....I make faces...my reflection is exactly the same. Similarly, in
life If I smile and reaching
out to people ......they tend to do the same....So If I expect others to
love me, understand me and respect me...I should take the initiative to
love them first, understand them first and respect them first.
4. Life will remain unjust & unfair: People dying in terrorist
attacks.....others dying due to natural
calamities like drought or floods.....yet a few others jumping off from
buildings or hanging themselves....and many many other misshapenness one
can think about. Doesn't it come to your mind.......There is no
God.....if he was there He would have taken care of his children.....and
not let these people die such painful deaths.....Friends if You and me
can do something to save these people or ....lets get on with the job
and go all out to help them ........if not...lets pray for their souls
and accept it as a fact of life.
5. Change - A continuous process -Friends, another fact of our lives is
that we are changing....either negative or positive - there are some of
the changes which we cannot stop ...like growing older....and this is
the easiest thing we can do with respect to change " It is easier
to grow older than grow wiser"....And to change ourselves to be
wiser and better human beings - we need to work on ourselves - on a
continuous basis.......again the choice lies with us...
6. Time Moves On - and unfortunately...life is a one time affair and
"NOT a dress rehearsal"(a beautiful book)....... I wish it was
like an audio cassette where I could erase it and rerecord it again and
again and again
......till I am satisfied. But pheeeew.......it is not like that...There
will not be another now...or another me........and the best thing I can
do is to make most of Today.
7. Desires without action leads to nothing - My life was just like that-
lots of desires...but NO ACTION....
.and when I started working on my desires and dreams......I am enjoying
life.and also making some money
in the process ....success will follow.....there is not stopping
it...You see, God of my understanding is
working overtime ( and making me work too).
===THE
LAST WORD===
LUMPYEXITZSINGING
"Obladee,
Obladah, life goes on, Bra...
Da
da da da Life goes on..."
--The
Beatles
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A MESSAGE FROM THE EDGE...
Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came.
It pushed Them...
And They flew."
- Guillaume Apollinaire
1870-1918
A MOMENT OF SILENCE: for those
who still suffer...
A PRAYER: Today, please, help us encourage
each other...
Thank You.
OUR DAILY TASK:
"Practice random acts of kindness and senseless beauty."
===ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT===
Alone we can do so little; together we can do so
much.
Dependent people need others to get what they want.
Independent people can get what they want through their own efforts.
Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of
others to achieve their greatest success.
Without a sense of caring, there can
be no sense of community.
Synergy is everywhere in nature.
If you plant two plants close together, the roots commingle and
improve the quality of soil
so that both plants will grow better than if they were separated.
If you put two pieces of wood together, they will hold much more
weight than the total of the weight held by each separately.
The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. One plus one
equals three or more.
'Tis not enough to help the feeble up,
But to support him after.
--William Shakespeare, Timon of Athens
We all of us need assistance. Those
who sustain others themselves want to be sustained.
--Maurice Hulst, The Way Of The
Heart
Wild Geese
You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it
loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting--
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.
Wild Geese© MARY OLIVER
Dream Work
Genesis
1:20
And God said, "Let the water
teem with living creatures,
and
let birds fly above the earth across the expanse of the sky."
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The unselfishness of these men as we have come to know
them, the entire absence of profit motive, and their
community spirit, is indeed inspiring to one who has
labored long and wearily in this alcoholic field.
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What a state of mental goose-flesh that used to
bring on!
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You are going to meet these
new friends in your own community.
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He too, has become a respected and useful member
of his community.
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What I do you cannot do; but what you do, I
cannot do. T
he needs are great, and none of us, including
me, ever do great things.
But we can all do small things, with great
love,
and together we can do something wonderful.
LESSONS FROM THE WILD GOOSE
As each goose flaps its wings, it creates an
"uplift" for the birds that follow.
By flying in a "V" formation, the whole
flock adds 71% greater flying range than if each flew alone.
People who share a common direction and sense of
community
can get where they are going quicker and easier
because they are traveling on the thrust of one
another...
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"Whenever a goose falls out of formation,
it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of trying to fly alone,
and quickly gets back into formation to take advantage of the
lifting power of the bird immediately in front."
Lesson:
If we have as much sense as a goose, we will
stay in formation with those who are headed where we want to go,
and be willing to accept their help as well as give ours to the
others.
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"When the lead goose gets tired, it rotates
back into the formation and another goose flies at the point
position."
Lesson:
It pays to take turns doing the hard tasks and
sharing leadership - with people, as with geese, we are
interdependent upon each other.
______________________________________________________
"The geese in formation honk from behind to
encourage those up front to keep up their speed."
Lesson:
We need to make sure our honking from behind is
encouraging - and not something else.
________________________________________________________
"When a goose gets sick or wounded or shot
down, two geese drop out of formation and follow it down to help
and protect it. They stay with it until it is able to fly again or
dies. Then they launch out on their own, with another formation,
or catch up with the flock."
Lesson:
If we have as much sense as geese, we too will
stand by each other in difficult times as well as when we are
strong.
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Geese flock and fly interdependently because
they need each other to survive. So do people. But for people,
interdependence is messier than for geese. People want it both
ways.
--Milton Olson, adapted by Angeles Arrien
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A MESSAGE FROM THE EDGE...
Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came.
It pushed Them...
And They flew."
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for those who still suffer...
A PRAYER: Today, please, help us manage the
stress of Recovery
Thank You.
OUR DAILY TASK:
"Practice random acts of kindness and senseless beauty."
Stress can be defined as any type of change
that causes physical, emotional or psychological strain. However,
not all types of stress are harmful or even negative. There are a
few different types of stress that we encounter:
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Eustress, a type of stress that is
fun and exciting, and keeps us vital (e.g. skiing down a slope
or racing to meet a deadline)
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Acute
Stress, a very short-term type of
stress that can either be positive (eustress) or more
distressing (what we normally think of when we think of
‘stress'); this is the type of stress we most often encounter
in day-to-day life (e.g. skiing down said slope or dealing with
road rage)
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Episodic Acute Stress, where acute
stress seems to run rampant and be a way of life, creating a
life of relative chaos (e.g. the type of stress that coined the
terms ‘drama queen’ and ‘absent-minded professor’)
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Chronic
Stress, the type of stress that
seems never-ending and inescapable, like the stress of a bad
marriage or an extremely taxing job (this type of stress can
lead to burnout... |
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Dry Stress: stress caused by
dehydration (LK)
(Cortisol is also the hormone that causes fat
to accumulate in the region of the abdomen - LK)
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===ATTITUDE
ADJUSTMENT===
Brain cells create ideas.
Stress kills brain cells.
Stress is not a good idea.
--Doug Hall, writing as "Poor
Richard"
It's a strange world of language
in which skating on thin ice can get you into hot water.
The better work men do is always
done under stress and at great personal cost.
--William Carlos Williams
You choose to go voluntarily into the
fire.
The blaze might well destroy you.
But if you survive, every blow of the
hammer will serve to shape your being.
Every drop of water wrung from
you will temper and strengthen your soul.
--Margaret Weis, Soulforge
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I
have been to the end of the earth,
I have been to the end of the waters,
I have been to the end of the sky,
I have been to the end of the mountains,
I have found none that are not my friends.
--Native American Proverb
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We never know the
worth of water 'til the well is dry.
===MESSAGES
FROM THE EAST===
If water derives
lucidity from stillness, how much more the faculties of the mind!
The mind of the sage,
being in repose, becomes the mirror of the universe, the speculum
of all creation.
Would that I were a dry well,
and that the people tossed stones into me,
for that would be easier than
to be a spring of flowing water that the thirsty pass by,
and from which they avoid
drinking.
EXCERPT FROM AN ALCOHOL ALERT BY
THE NIAAA
The term "stress" often is
used to describe the subjective feeling of pressure or tension.
However, when scientists refer to stress, they mean the many
objective physiological processes that are initiated in response
to a stressor. As this Alcohol Alert explains, the stress
response is a complex process; the association between drinking
and stress is more complicated still. Because both drinking
behavior and an individual's response to stress are determined by
multiple genetic and environmental factors, studying the link
between alcohol consumption and stress may further our
understanding of drinking behavior.
The maintenance of the
body's relatively steady internal state, or homeostasis, is
essential for survival. The body's delicate balance of biochemical
and physiological function is constantly challenged by a wide
variety of stressors, including illness, injury, and exposure to
extreme temperatures(dehydration - LK); by
psychological factors, such as depression and fear; and by sexual
activity and some forms of novelty-seeking. In response to stress,
or even perceived stress, the body mobilizes an extensive array of
physiological and behavioral changes in a process of continual
adaptation, with the goal of maintaining homeostasis and coping with
the stress....
Does Stress
Influence Drinking?
Human research to
clarify the connection between alcohol and stress usually has been
conducted using either population surveys based on subject
self-reports or experimental studies. In many but not all of these
studies, individuals report that they drink in response to stress
and do so for a variety of reasons. Studies indicate that people
drink as a means of coping with economic stress, job stress, and
marital problems, often in the absence of social support, and that
the more severe and chronic the stressor, the greater the alcohol
consumption. However, whether an individual will drink in response
to stress appears to depend on many factors, including possible
genetic determinants of drinking in response to stress, an
individual's usual drinking behavior, one's expectations regarding
the effect of alcohol on stress, the intensity and type of stressor,
the individual's sense of control over the stressor, the range of
one's responses to cope with the perceived stress, and the
availability of social support to buffer the effects of stress. Some
researchers have found that high levels of stress may influence
drinking when alternative resources are lacking, when alcohol is
accessible, and when the individual believes that alcohol will help
to reduce the stress. (not true - LK)
Numerous studies have
found that stress increases alcohol consumption in animals (and
humans ARE animals, too- LK) and that individual animals may
differ in the amount of alcohol they consume in response to stress.
Such differences may be related in part to an animal's experiencing
chronic stress early in life: Prolonged stress in infancy may
permanently alter the hormonal stress response and subsequent
reactions to new stressors, including alcohol consumption. For
example, monkeys who were reared by peers, a circumstance regarded
as a stressor compared to mother-rearing, consumed twice as much
alcohol as monkeys who were mother-reared. According to Viau and
colleagues, adult rats handled for the first 3 weeks of life
demonstrate markedly reduced hormonal responses to a variety of
stressors compared with rats not handled during this time). In
humans, Cloninger reported an association between certain types of
alcoholism and adverse early childhood experiences.
Animal studies
reporting a positive correlation between stress and alcohol
consumption suggest that drinking may take place in response to
chronic stress perceived as unavoidable. For instance, rats
chronically exposed to unavoidable shock learn to be helpless or
passive when faced with any new stressor--including shock that is
avoidable--and to demonstrate increased alcohol preference compared
with rats that received only avoidable shock). The rats exposed to
unavoidable shock exhibit the hormonal changes indicative of the
stress response, including increased levels of corticosteroid
hormones.
...In both
humans and animals, drinking appears to follow stress. Some human
research, however, shows that drinking may take place in
anticipation of or during times of stress.
...Much research
demonstrates that alcohol actually induces the stress response by
stimulating hormone release by the hypothalamus, pituitary, and
adrenal glands. This finding has been demonstrated in animal
studies. In one study with rats, the administration of alcohol
initiated the physiological stress response, measured by increased
levels of corticosterone. In addition to stimulating the hormonal
stress response, chronic exposure to alcohol also results in an
increase in adrenaline.
Stress,
Alcoholism, and Relapse
Stress may be linked
to social drinking, and the physiological response to stress is
different in actively drinking alcoholics compared with
nonalcoholics. Researchers have found that animals preferring
alcohol over water have a different physiological response to stress
than animals that do not prefer alcohol. Nonetheless, a clear
association between stress, drinking behavior, and the development
of alcoholism in humans has yet to be established.
There may, however, in
the already established alcoholic, be a clearer connection
between stress and relapse: Among abstinent alcoholics, personally
threatening, severe, and chronic life stressors may lead to alcohol
relapse. Brown and colleagues studied a group of men who
completed inpatient alcoholism treatment and later experienced
severe and prolonged psychosocial stress prior to and independent of
any alcohol use. The researchers found that subjects who relapsed
experienced twice as much severe and prolonged stress before their
return to drinking as those who remained abstinent. In this study,
severe psychosocial stress was related to relapse in alcoholic males
who expected alcohol to reduce their stress. Those most vulnerable
to stress-related relapse scored low on measures of coping skills,
self-efficacy, and social support. Stress-related relapse was
greatest among those who had less confidence in their ability to
resist drinking and among those who relied on drinkers for social
support. Although many factors can influence a return to drinking,
Brown and colleagues note that stress may exert its greatest
influence on the initial consumption of alcohol after a period of
abstinence.
Drinking and
Stress--A Commentary by
NIAAA Director Enoch Gordis, M.D.
Stress is commonly
believed to be a factor in the development of alcoholism (alcohol
dependence). However, current science is more informative about
the relationship between drinking and stress than about the
relationship between stress and alcohol dependence.
Drinking alcohol
produces physiological stress, that is, some of the body's
responses to alcohol are similar to its responses to other
stressors. Yet, individuals also drink to relieve stress.
Why people should engage in an activity that produces effects
similar to those they are trying to relieve is a paradox that we
do not yet understand. One hypothesis is that stress responses are
not exclusively unpleasant; the arousal associated with stress
itself may be rewarding. This might explain, for example,
compulsive gambling or repeated participation in
"thrill-seeking" activities. Current studies may
illuminate genetic variations in the physiological response to
stress that are important in drinking or other activities with the
potential to become addictive.
===SCHOOL
DAZE: WATER AND STRESS===
Water
and Stress
In
addition to exercise, it is important that your body gets enough
water. Water is necessary for our body to operate efficiently.
Water is vital to the body in temperature regulation, nerve
impulse conduction, circulation, metabolism, immune system,
eliminative processes, sensory awareness and perceptive thinking.
Americans,
on average, drink only eight ounces (one cup) of water per day.
The rest of the water the body needs must be extracted from other
liquids or foods that we eat. Not enough water is a real threat to
the system. Many chemical reactions inside the body will not occur
without the right amount of water.
It
only takes a one percent fluid loss in the body to become
dehydrated. This generally happens prior to any conscious
sensation of being thirsty. Very small shortages of water can
dramatically change and disrupt biochemistry. Water is considered
by exercise physiologists as the single most important variable in
peak performance. Your muscles can lose up to ten percent of their
contractile strength and eight percent of speed from only a three
percent dehydration.
A
small change makes a big difference when it comes to water. If you
do a lot of travel by air, you can lose as much as two pounds of
water in a three to four hour flight. Stress, alcohol and caffeine
all influence the amount of water and the speed in which your body
loses it. Any of these factors, alone or in combination, could
cause a small but critical shrinkage of the brain. This small
shrinkage will impair neuromuscular coordination, decrease
concentration, and slow thinking (moderator
note: as well as adding to stress levels)
The
average amount of water loss per day is two cups through
breathing, two cups through invisible perspiration, and six cups
through urination and bowel movements. That is a total of ten cups
lost per day without taking into account perspiration from
exercise or hard work, excessively dry air, or alcohol and
caffeine consumption.
To
maintain efficient operation, you want to drink the following:
150
pounds or less: five cups (64 fl oz)
For
every 20 pounds of body weight over 150, drink an additional cup.
Thus,
a person weighing 190 pounds would drink a minimum of ten cups or
80 fluid ounces.
Over
250, drink the same as 250 lb, (12-13 Cups.)
____________________________________________________________________________________________
,,, dehydration
affects health in general and not just stress in particular, but its
one of those things which, like stress, if left unaddressed, will
make things worse over time.
Water
is essential to our wellbeing, stop drinking it and you wouldn’t
last more than a couple of days...
In
less than one hour under hot and humid weather conditions, muscle
endurance and tolerance for physical activity is reduced. Alertness
and mental capacity will also be affected. This subsequent reduction
in mental capacity is very significant because if the symptoms are
not considered in the correct context they can be identified as
direct symptoms of stress! This can lead to inappropriate
treatment, which is in fact akin to the healer helping their client
to feel better about being ill!!!
Few
people realise for example that when it is dehydrated the body
produces cholesterol, which then surrounds our cells. It does
this in order to protect the fluids contained within the cells.
Short term this is one of natures miracles, long term, not so good.
Dehydration
affects thinking, causes headaches and nausea, constipation and
irritability. It does a lot more but those mentioned should be
familiar to anyone practising stress management.
Paradoxically,
stress leads to dehydration in and of itself. The fact of
dehydration in the first place stresses the body, thus creating a
nice little catch 22 situation if ever there was one. When
people are under stress it is particularly important that they drink
plenty of fresh water.
Another
surprising thing about dehydration is one of the most common
symptoms – not feeling thirsty in the first place.
That’s worth re-reading!! The body can get so used to being
dehydrated that it forgets how to be thirsty in the first place.
A lot of this has to do with drinking for stimulation, soft drinks
and other palate tickling liquids being the norm. It’s not
uncommon to see peer pressure being applied as people are mocked for
drinking water, can’t you handle a real drink then?
Facts
About Dehydration
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75%
of Americans are chronically dehydrated. (What’s the betting
that this applies to most of the world’s population?)
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The
thirst mechanism is often so weak in the chronically
dehydrated that it is often mistaken for hunger
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Even
MILD dehydration will slow down one's metabolism as much as 3%
(this does not sound like much but this is very significant)
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A
University of Washington study discovered that a single glass
of water shut down midnight hunger pangs for almost 100% of
dieters taking part in a study
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Lack
of water is the number one cause of daytime fatigue
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A
mere 2% drop in body water can affect mental alertness and
tolerance for physical activity
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Drinking
5 glasses of water daily decreases the risk of colon cancer by
45%, reduces the risk of breast cancer by 79%, reduces the
risk of bladder cancer by up to 50% |
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Therefore do not worry about tomorrow,
for tomorrow will worry about its own things.
Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
--Matthew 6:34 The Holy Bible
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He had commenced our way of life, had secured a
position, and was getting his head above water.
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The joy of living we really have,
even under pressure and difficulty.
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Most of the time,
therefore, I did not take the morning drink
which I craved so badly, but instead would
fill up on large doses of sedatives to quiet
the jitters, which distressed me terribly.
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THE HIDDEN MESSAGE IN WATER
LOVE THYSELF: The Message from Water
III
...the Law
of Stress-Hardinesss...states that stress is not only to
be expected but preferred...we can and should develop an
positive, workable approach to stress management...Think
of it. The perfect no-stress environment is the
grave...When we change our perception we gain control.
The stress becomes a challenge, not a threat. When we
commit to action, to actually doing something rather
than feeling trapped by events, the stress in our life
becomes manageable.
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High and dry in the long hot day
Lost and lonely in every way
Got the flats all around me sky up above
I need a little water of love
I’ve been too long lonely and my heart feels pain
Crying out for some soothing rain
I believe I have taken enough
I need a little water of love
Water of love deep in the ground
Ain't no water here to be found
Some day baby when the river runs free
It’ll carry that water of love to me
There’s a bird up in a tree sitting up high
Waiting for me to die
If I don’t get some water soon
I’ll be dead and gone in the afternoon...
--Dire Straights, Water of Love
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OUR MOTTO:
Rule 62
- Don't take yourself too seriously...
A MESSAGE FROM THE EDGE...
Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came.
It pushed Them...
And They flew."
- Guillaume Apollinaire
1870-1918
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who still suffer...
A PRAYER: Today, please, help us
Thank You.
OUR DAILY TASK:
"Practice random acts of kindness and senseless beauty."
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EMERALD VALLEY INTERGROUP - RULE 62
===ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT===
Six simple rules of happiness:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
===SOUL FOOD===
The tears that you spill, the sorrowful, are
sweeter than the laughter of snobs and the guffaws of scoffers."
-Kahlil Gibran,
"A Handful of Sand on the Shore"
Better than hide-and-seek, I like the game
called Sardines. In Sardines the person who is IT goes and hides, and
everybody goes looking for him. When you find him, you get in with him
and hide there with him. Pretty soon everybody is hiding together, all
stacked in a small space like puppies in a pile. And pretty soon
somebody giggles and somebody laughs and everybody gets found."
"Medieval theologians even described God, in hide-and-seek terms,
calling him Deus Absconditus. But me, I think old God is a
Sardine player. And will be found the same way everybody gets found in
Sardines - by the sound of laughter of those heaped together at the
end.
-Robert Fulghum, All
I Needed To Know I Learned In Kindergarten
Troy: There's no point to any of this.
It's all just a... a random lottery of meaningless tragedy and a
series of near escapes. So I take pleasure in the details. You know...
a quarter-pounder with cheese, those are good, the sky about ten
minutes before it starts to rain, the moment where your laughter
become a cackle... and I, I sit back and I smoke my Camel Straights
and I ride my own melt.
--Unknown - lost the citation...drain bamage
At least one way of measuring the
freedom of any society is the amount of comedy that is permitted, and
clearly a healthy society permits more satirical comment than a
repressive, so that if comedy is to function in some way as a safety
release then it must obviously deal with these taboo areas. This is
part of the responsibility we accord our licensed jesters, that
nothing be excused the searching light of comedy. If anything can
survive the probe of humour it is clearly of value, and conversely all
groups who claim immunity from laughter are claiming special
privileges which should not be granted.
--Attributed to Eric Idle
Whoever undertakes to set himself up as
judge in the field of truth and knowledge
is shipwrecked by the laughter of the
Gods.
Nobody ever died of laughter.
Laughter is the shortest distance between
two people.
Laughter is nothing else but a sudden
glory
arising from some sudden conception of
some eminency in ourselves,
by comparison with the infirmity of
others, or with our own formerly.
"[Humanity] has
unquestionably one really effective weapon—laughter.
Power, money, persuasion,
supplication, persecution—these can lift at a colossal humbug—
push it a little—weaken it a
little, century by century;
but only laughter can blow it to
rags and atoms at a blast.
Against the assault of laughter
nothing can stand."
-Mark Twain, The
Mysterious Stranger, ch. 10, 1916
Laughter is an instant vacation.
My Addiction
It started out innocently enough. I began to think at parties now
and then to loosen up. Inevitably though, one thought led to
another, and soon I was more than just a social thinker.
I began to think alone - "to relax," I told myself - but I knew it
wasn't true. Thinking became more and more important to me, and
finally I was thinking all the time.
I began to think on the job. I knew that thinking and employment
don't mix, but I couldn't stop myself.
I began to avoid friends at lunchtime so I could read Thoreau and
Kafka. I would return to the office dizzied and confused, asking,
"What is it exactly we are doing here?"
Things weren't going so great at home either. One evening I had
turned off the TV and asked my wife about the meaning of life.
She spent that night at her mother's.
I soon had a reputation as a heavy thinker. One day the boss
called me in. He said, "Skippy, I like you, and it hurts me to
say this, but your thinking has become a real problem. If you
don't stop thinking on the job, you'll have to find another job."
This gave me a lot to think about.
I came home early after my conversation with the boss. "Honey, "
I confessed, "I've been thinking..."
"I know you've been thinking," she said, "and I want a divorce!"
"But Honey, surely it's not that serious."
"It is serious," she said, lower lip aquiver. "You think as much
as college professors, and college professors don't make any
money, so if you keep on thinking we won't have any money!"
"That's a faulty syllogism," I said impatiently, and she began to
cry. I'd had enough. "I'm going to the library," I snarled as I
stomped out the door.
I headed for the library, in the mood for some Nietzsche, with a
PBS station on the radio. I roared into the parking lot and ran
up to the big glass doors... they didn't open. The library was
closed.
To this day, I believe that a Higher Power was looking out for me
that night.
As I sank to the ground clawing at the unfeeling glass, whimpering
for Zarathustra, a poster caught my eye. "Friend, is heavy
thinking ruining your life?" it asked. You probably recognize
that line. It comes from the standard Thinker's Anonymous poster.
Which is why I am what I am today: a recovering thinker. I never
miss a TA meeting. At each meeting we watch a non-educational
video; last week it was "Porky's." Then we share experiences
about how we avoided thinking since the last meeting.
I still have my job, and things are a lot better at home. Life
just seemed... easier, somehow, as soon as I stopped thinking.
"...But we aren't a glum
lot. If newcomers could see no joy or fun in our existence, they
wouldn't want it.
We absolutely insist on enjoying life."
(pg 132, The Big Book Of Alcoholics Anonymous)
FROM: University of Maryland School of
Medicine
Laughter is the "Best Medicine" for Your Heart
By Michelle Weinstein
University of Maryland Medical System Web Site Writer
Can a laugh every day keep the heart attack away? Maybe so.
Laughter, along with an active sense of humor, may help protect you
against a heart attack, according to a recent study
by cardiologists at the University of Maryland Medical Center in
Baltimore. The study, which is the first to indicate that laughter may
help prevent heart disease, found that people with heart disease were
40 percent less likely to laugh in a variety of situations compared to
people of the same age without heart disease.
by Drs. Gael Crystal & Patrick Flanagan
Scientists have found that laughter is a form of
internal jogging that exercises the body and stimulates the release of
beneficial brain neurotransmitters and hormones. Positive outlook and
laughter is actually good for our health!
Adults laugh approximately 15
times per day, while children laugh
about 400 times a day!
When we grew up, somehow we lost a few hundred laughs
a day. By learning to smile and laugh again, more easily and often, we
could have a profound and positive effect on our health and well being.
The new science of psychoneuroimmunology is the study
of how our state of mind affects our health. More than ever, scientific
evidence suggests that laughter really is one of the best medicines.
Laughter Studies!
At California's Loma Linda University Medical Center,
Lee Berk, assistant research professor, and Stanley Tan,
Endocrinologist, and their colleagues, are in the lead in understanding
the physiology of merriment. We now know that there are two types of
stress: good stress and bad stress. Laughter is a form of good stress,
or stress in reverse.
Research on stress has shown that bad stress
suppresses your immune system. Drs. Tan and Berk wanted to find out if a
form of good stress, or laughter, would improve the immune system.
They studied groups of average adults and found that
both arms of the immune system got a boost out of laughter. Subjects
faced a solid hour of induced merriment from videos of comedians, while
a control group sat quietly out of earshot. These doctors took blood
samples at 10 minute intervals before, during and after the laughter
workout.
They found that humor and exercise trigger similar
physiological processes. Like conditioned athletes, the laughter group
showed increases in the good hormones --such as endorphins and
neurotransmitters -- and decreased levels of the stress hormones --
cortisol and adrenaline. Laughter is one of the body's safety valves, a
counter balance to tension. When we release that tension, the elevated
levels of the body's stress hormones drop back to normal, thereby
allowing our immune systems to work more effectively.
Cells which produce anti-bodies increase in number,
T-cells which combat viruses are activated and ready for battle. Our
natural killer cells increase in number and activity. All this occurs as
a direct result of laughter!
Dr. Tan states it all quite eloquently: "All
these neuro-hormones act like an orchestra, each instrument makes a
particular note. Laughter makes the entire orchestra more melodious or
balanced. In other words, laughter brings a balance to all the
components of the immune system."
In some clinics, scattered here and there throughout
the world, laughter is beginning to take the place of anti-depressant
drugs and reduces the need for pain killers.
On an interesting note: Faking laughter will also
cause the body to respond as though the laughter is real. The
physiological changes we discussed that occur with real laughter will
also take effect even when we just pretend to laugh.
Psychiatrist Robert Holden, who runs laughter clinics
for England's National Health Service, says, "Smiling and
laughing produce happy chemicals called endorphins which work in the
brain to give an overall feeling of well-being."
Being unhappy or very sad can seriously damage your
health. So don't worry, be happy!
There is truth in the old saying:
He who laughs ...lasts!
"If you can't laugh at yourself, you
are truly
lost..."
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OUR SPIRITUAL MASCOT: The Wild Goose
OUR MOTTO: Rule 62 - Don't take yourself too
seriously...
A MESSAGE FROM THE EDGE...
Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came.
It pushed Them...
And They flew."
- Guillaume Apollinaire
1870-1918
A MOMENT OF SILENCE: for those
who still suffer...
A PRAYER: Today, please, help us make
real our dreams in Recovery...
Thank You.
OUR DAILY TASK:
"Practice random acts of kindness and senseless beauty."
Howdy All, I'm gettin' another day, hope you are
too!!!
I just wanted to say "Thanks" to all the
members who purchased
We made enough money in 2005 to pay for two months of
internet and website service...which may not sound like a whole lot,
but was a great help to me in my "starving student"
circumstances this past year...and goes a good way toward the
goal of making the Recovery List and Online
Recovery Library "self-supporting through our own
contributions."
Also, a special thanks to the kind and generous soul who
made an anonymous $10 cash donation at Christmas Time to
the effort via PayPal to lumpykarma@sbcglobal.net
Buy the books (see below) if you can, but if you
can't, spare change is always welcome!!!
EXCERPT: The
goal is set. She runs for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow
and everything in creation tries to stop her... A hailstorm, a fire,
a hurricane, a heartbreak, and finally, persisting until the sweet
end, she makes it! Hardly believing it is real, she basks in the
warm light of glory that begins to feel as natural as the sun
itself.
EXCERPT: Dreams
form a framework from which you can advance your path. You can see
within your dreams the pathway that lies before you and as such can
plan and act upon the wishes of your soul. Dreams give you the
strength to move forward along a path that at times seems hard and
difficult to navigate. Dreams cushion your path and give you the
flexibility to withstand any difficult moments that life presents.
===ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT===
Imagine what life would be like if you stopped
thinking "If I could have..."
Nothing happens unless first a dream.
Hold fast to dreams for if dreams die, life is a
broken winged bird that cannot fly.
--Langston Hughes
Dreams never hurt anybody if you keep working right
behind the dreams to make as much of them become real as you can.
--Frank W. Woolworth
Our truest life is when we are in our dreams awake.
--Henry David Thoreau (1817 - 1862)
Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your
soul; the blue prints of your ultimate achievements.
--Napoleon Hill
The dreamers are the builders of the future -- if they don't stop
dreaming.
Think "impossible" and dreams get
discarded, projects get abandoned , and hope for wellness is
torpedoed.
But let someone yell the words "It's
possible," and resources we hadn't been aware of come rushing in
to assist us in our quest.
I believe we are all potentially brilliant and
creative--
but only if we believe it,
only if we have an attitude of positive
expectancy toward our ideas,
and only if we act on them
...for better or worse, our future will be
determined in large part by our dreams and by the struggle to make
them real.
'Now' is the operative word.
Everything you put in your way is just a method
of putting off the hour when you could actually be doing your dream.
You don't need endless time and perfect
conditions.
Do it for twenty minutes and watch your heart
start beating.
Most of us visualize on a daily basis, but we
often do it unconsciously and in a negative fashion.
What happens to our bodies when we worry?
We tense up, disrupt our normal breathing, and
psycho-physically prepare ourselves for failure.
Instead, learn to use positive visualization to
prepare yourself for success.
As you do you will transform the energy that
supports your worrying into fuel for making your dreams come true.
...The search for freedom, freedom to perceive,
without obsession, all that's humanly possible."
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a fourth dimension of existence of which we had not even
dreamed.
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This dream world has been replaced by a great sense of
purpose, accompanied by a growing consciousness of the power
of God in our lives.
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Deuteronomy
13:1
If there arise among you a prophet, or a dreamer of
dreams, and giveth thee a sign or a wonder...
Acts
2:17
And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God,
I will pour out of my Spirit upon all flesh:
and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy,
and your young men shall see visions,
and your old men shall dream dreams...
"The path to a dream is paved with sacrifices and
lined with determination.
And although it has many stumbling blocks along the way
and may go in more than one direction, it is marked with faith.
It is traveled by belief in you and others but requires
courage, persistence and hard work.
It is conquered with a willingness to face challenges
and take chances, to fail and try again and again.
Along the way, you may have to confront doubts,
setbacks, and unfairness.
But when the path comes to an end, you will find that
there is no greater joy than making your dream come true."
- Source Unknown
Most people think of dreams as either some
unattainable fantasy or as something they do in their sleep.
Neither definition is what I mean when I speak of
dreams.
I define dreams as the aspirations, desires, goals
and hopes that you most want for yourself.
These are the dreams you have while you are wide
awake.
Here is my formula for making your dreams come true.
Get clear about what your dream is.
Remove the obstacles, especially the limiting
beliefs.
Design the simple steps to make your dream come true.
It's that simple. That's the formula for having
it all -- a life you love and the time and freedom to enjoy it.
You gotta go where you wanna go,
Do what you wanna do
With whoever you wanna do it with.,,
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ACTS OF KINDNESS...OUR DAILY TASK
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OUR SPIRITUAL MASCOT: The Wild Goose
OUR MOTTO: Rule 62 - Don't take yourself too
seriously...
A MESSAGE FROM THE EDGE...
Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came.
It pushed Them...
And They flew."
- Guillaume
Apollinaire
1870-1918
A MOMENT OF SILENCE: for those
who still suffer...
A PRAYER: Today, please, help us to
be kind...
Thank You.
OUR DAILY TASK:
"Practice random acts of
kindness and senseless beauty."
2006: February 13-19
Random Acts of Kindness Week
2006: November 13-19
World Kindness Week
2006: November 13
World Kindness Day
For the Newcomers to the group, to help explain the
Newsletter format and focus
(and as a reminder for all others),
no matter what the body of the newsletter content
may be...
we have several recurring themes that appear at
the beginning of each and every newsletter, without
fail:
A MOMENT OF SILENCE: For
those who still suffer...
A PRAYER:
Today, please, help us .... Thank You.
OUR DAILY TASK:
Practice Random Acts of Kindness and Senseless Beauty
OUR PURPOSE: To carry the message...
OUR SPIRITUAL MASCOT: The Wild Goose
OUR MOTTO: Rule 62 - Don't take yourself
too seriously...
A MESSAGE FROM THE EDGE...
Polyaddict/Student/List Moderator
RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS FOUNDATION
ACTS OF KINDNESS DAILY PAGE
RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS HOME PAGE
===ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT===
"Sometimes our light goes out but is blown into
a flame by another human being.
Each of us owes deepest thanks to those who have
rekindled this light."
--Albert Schweitzer
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"My religion is simple. My religion is
Kindness."
--Dalai Lama
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"If you have not often felt the joy of doing
a kind act, you have neglected much, and most of all yourself."
--A. Neilen
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"When I was young, I admired clever people.
Now that I am old, I admire kind people. "
--Abraham Joshua Heschel
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"Life is mostly froth and bubble;
Two
things stand like stone:
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Kindness in another's trouble,
Courage
in your own. "
--Adam Lindsay Gordon (1833-70)
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"No act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted."
--Aesop
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"The ideas that have lighted my way have been kindness, beauty
and truth."
--Albert Einstein
"Kindliness is next to Godliness"
Random act of kindness
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.
A random act of kindness or RAoK is a selfless
act performed by kind people to either help or cheer up a random
stranger, for no reason other than to make people happier. Either
spontaneous or planned in advance, RAoKs are encouraged by various
online and offline communities.
An example of a random act of kindness is, when paying the toll
at a toll booth on a highway or bridge, to pay the toll for the
car behind you as well.
The second week of February is Random Act of Kindness week.
The phrase is a modification, or mangling, of "Practice
random kindness and senseless acts of beauty", coined by Anne
Herbert, as well as a play on the phrase "random act of
violence".
Many of us living in
towns where we must pay for street-side parking meters, find the
allotted time at the meters too short to run all the errands we have
in a given day. The other day I parked at a meter and ran off to do my
errands. I was gone over 30 minutes. Fearing a ticket on my window, I
ran back to my car. Someone had paid the meter, and put a very nice
note on my windshield asking me to do the same for someone else
sometime. I was very moved by this simple act. Now I will often look
for other cars with an expired meter and put the coins in to give that
shopper a little relief from the meter patrols. I had heard of this
act being done before. But when it happened to me it really made me
think. I guess the small ways we effect one another really do make a
difference.
FROM: RANDOM ACTS OF
KINDNESS HOMEPAGE
From The King James Bible - New Testament
Acts
28:2
And the barbarous people shewed us no little kindness: for they
kindled a fire, and received us every one, because of the present
rain, and because of the cold.
2
Corinthians 6:6
By pureness, by knowledge, by long suffering, by kindness, by the
Holy Ghost, by love unfeigned,
Ephesians
2:7
That in the ages to come he might shew the exceeding riches of his
grace in his kindness toward us through Christ Jesus.
Colossians
3:12
Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of
mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;
Titus
3:4
But after that the kindness and love of God our Saviour toward man
appeared,
2
Peter 1:7
And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness
charity.
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It may be that both will decide that the way of good sense
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Swahili = bashasha, fadhili
HEALTH BENEFITS OF KINDNESS
Numerous scientific studies show that acts of kindness result in
significant health benefits, both physical and mental. Here are some
key points:
• Helping contributes to the maintenance of good health, and it
can diminish the effect of diseases and disorders serious and minor,
psychological and physical.
• A rush of euphoria, followed by a longer period of calm, after
performing a kind act is often referred to as a "helper's
high," involving physical sensations and the release of the
body's natural painkillers, the endorphins. This initial rush is
then followed by a longer-lasting period of improved emotional
well-being.
• Stress-related health problems improve after performing kind
acts. Helping reverses feelings of depression, supplies social
contact, and decreases feelings of hostility and isolation that can
cause stress, overeating, ulcers, etc. A drop in stress may, for
some people, decrease the constriction within the lungs that leads
to asthma attacks.
• Helping can enhance our feelings of joyfulness, emotional
resilience, and vigor, and can reduce the unhealthy sense of
isolation.
• A decrease in both the intensity and the awareness of physical
pain can occur.
• The incidence of attitudes, such as chronic hostility, that
negatively arouse and damage the body is reduced.
• The health benefits and sense of well-being return for hours or
even days whenever the helping act is remembered.
• An increased sense of self-worth, greater happiness, and
optimism, as well as a decrease in feelings of helplessness and
depression, is achieved.
• Once we establish an "affiliative connection" with
someone - a relationship of friendship, love, or some sort of
positive bonding - we feel emotions that can strengthen the immune
system.
• Adopting an altruistic lifestyle is a critical component of
mental health.
• The practice of caring for strangers translates to immense
immune and healing benefits.
• Regular club attendance, volunteering, entertaining, or faith
group attendance is the happiness equivalent of getting a college
degree or more than doubling your income.
Source: Luks, Allan. The
Healing Power of Doing Good: The Health and Spiritual Benefits of
Helping Others. New York: iUniverse.com, 2001. Our thanks to the
Niagara Wellness Council, Niagara Fall, NY, for compiling this list
from Luks' book. The Niagara Wellness Council may be reached by
email at niagwellness@opticlick.com
"Perhaps we're too embarrassed to change or too
frightened of the consequences of showing that we actually care.
But why not risk it anyway?
BEGIN TODAY! Carry out an act of kindness, with no expectation of
reward or punishment.
Safe in the knowledge that one day,someone somewhere
might do the same for you."
--Princess Diana
"Pass it on..."
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OUR SPIRITUAL MASCOT: The Wild Goose
OUR MOTTO: Rule 62 - Don't take
yourself too seriously...
A MESSAGE FROM THE EDGE...
Come to the edge, Life said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came.
It pushed Them...
And They flew."
- Guillaume Apollinaire
1870-1918
A MOMENT OF SILENCE: for
those who still suffer...
A PRAYER: Today, please,
help us renew our Recovery
Thank You.
OUR DAILY TASK:
"Practice random acts of kindness and senseless
beauty."
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SOBRIETY & RECOVERY RESOURCES
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WORKBOOK
===ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT===
Doing is a quantum leap from imagining.
Thinking about swimming isn't much like
actually getting in the water.
Actually getting in the water can take
your breath away.
The defense force inside of us wants us
to be cautious, to stay away from anything as intense as a new
kind of action.
Its job is to protect us, and it
categorically avoids anything resembling danger.
But it's often wrong.
Anything worth doing is worth doing too soon.
Great ability develops and reveals
itself increasingly with every new assignment.
Baltasar Gracian, The Oracle
I have enjoyed greatly the
second blooming that comes when you finish the life of the
emotions and of personal relations;
and suddenly find - at the age
of fifty, say - that a whole new life has opened before you,
filled with things you can
think about, study, or read about...It is as if a fresh sap of
ideas and thoughts was rising in you.
--Agatha Christie, An
Autobiography
Although there may be nothing new
under the sun, what is old is new to us and so rich and
astonishing that we never tire of it.
If we do tire of it, if we lose our
curiosity, we have lost something of infinite value,
because to a high degree it is
curiosity that gives meaning and savour to life.
"Old times" never come back
and I suppose it's just as well.
What comes back is a new morning
every day in the year, and that's better.
You must not for one instant give up the
effort to build new lives for yourselves...
The creation of something new is not
accomplished by the intellect but by the play instinct acting
from inner necessity.
The creative mind plays with the objects
it loves.
According to Barbara Sher...
You can learn new things at any time in
your life if you're willing to be a beginner.
If you actually learn to like being a
beginner, the whole world opens up to you.
Life isn't supposed to be an all or
nothing battle between misery and bliss.
Life isn't supposed to be a battle at
all.
And when it comes to happiness, well,
sometimes life is just okay, sometimes it's comfortable,
sometimes wonderful, sometimes boring,
sometimes unpleasant.
When your day's not perfect, it's not a
failure or a terrible loss.
'Now' is the operative word.
Everything you put in your way is just a
method of putting off the hour when you could actually be
doing your dream.
You don't need endless time and perfect
conditions.
Do it today. Do it for twenty minutes and
watch your heart start beating.
Every single one of us can do things that
no one else can do--can love things that no one else can
love...
We can be used for doorstops, or we can
make music.
When you start using senses you've
neglected,
your reward is to see the world with
completely fresh eyes.
You don't have to get it right the first
time.
And our dreams are who we are
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As soon as we admitted the possible
existence of a Creative Intelligence, a
Spirit of the Universe underlying the
totality of things, we began to be
possessed of a new sense of power and
direction, provided we took other simple
steps.
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As we felt new power flow in, as
we enjoyed peace of mind, as we
discovered we could face life
successfully, as we became
conscious of His presence, we
began to lose our fear of today,
tomorrow or the hereafter.
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We have been trying to get a new
attitude, a new relationship
with our Creator, and to
discover the obstacles in our
path.
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They have a new attitude, and they have been saved
from a living death.
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===THE POETS CORNER===
Come, my friends,
'T is not too late to seek a newer world.
Push off, and sitting well in order smite
The sounding furrows; for my purpose holds
To sail beyond the sunset, and the baths
Of all the western stars, until I die.
It may be that the gulfs will wash us down:
It may be we shall touch the Happy Isles,
And see the great Achilles, whom we knew.
Tho' much is taken, much abides; and tho'
We are not now that strength which in old days
Moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are;
One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.
--Alfred Lord Tennyson, Ulysses
Whatever we learn has a purpose and
whatever we do affects everything and everyone else, if even
in the tiniest way.
Why, when a housefly flaps his wings, a
breeze goes round the world;
when a speck of dust falls to the
ground, the entire planet weighs a little more;
and when you stamp your foot, the earth
moves slightly off its course.
Whenever you laugh, gladness spreads
like the ripples in a pond;
and whenever you're sad, no one anywhere
can be really happy.
And it's much the same thing with
knowledge,
for whenever you learn something new,
the whole world becomes that much richer.
--Norton Juster, The Phantom
Tollbooth
I'm feelin' good from my head to my
shoes
Know where I'm goin' and I know what to do
I tidied up my point of view
I got a new attitude
Runnin' hot, runnin' cold
I was runnin' into overload
It was extreme, ex-ex-ex-ex-ex-extreme
I took it so high, so low
So low, there was nowhere to go
Like a dream
Somehow the wires uncrossed, the tables were turned
Never knew I had such a lesson to learn
I'm feelin' good from my head to my shoes
Know where I'm goin' and I know what to do
I tidied up my point of view
I got a new attitude
I'm in control, my worries are few
'Cause I've got love like I never knew
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh
I got a new attitude
I'm wearing a new dress (New), new hair (New)
Brand new ideas, as a matter of fact I've changed for good
It must have been the cool night, new moon, new slight change
???More than to figure??? but I feel like I should, yes
Somehow the wires uncrossed, the tables were turned
Never knew I had such a lesson to learn
I'm feelin' good from my head to my shoes
Know where I'm goin' and I know what to do
I tidied up my point of view
I got a new attitude
I'm in control, my worries are few
'Cause I've got love like I never knew
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh
I got a new attitude
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh...ooh...
Somehow the wires uncrossed, the tables were turned
Never knew I had such a lesson to learn
I'm feelin' good from my head to my shoes
Know where I'm goin' and I know what to do...
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EVERY END A NEW BEGINNING
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